I have been married for 17 years, have three beautiful children, ages 9, 12, and 15, and a wife whom I love deeply. Several years ago she asked that we open our relationship because she wanted to explore having intimate experiences with other men which I agreed to. It's been an interesting journey and recently we attended our first weekend Tantric workshop near Düsseldorf (we live near Hannover--my wife is German, I'm from California. I speak some German but am not completely fluent.)
That was a game-changer for both of us. For her, she has found our tantric connection has been so fulfilling that she says she no longer is interested in sexual intimacy with anyone else. For me, it's been the opposite. I haven't had any other partners since we opened our relationship three years ago, but with the immense opening of energy in my spine and consciousness from the tantric practice, I find myself falling in love and wanting intimacy with practically everyone I meet (I've learned really loving means meeting each person where they are and only expressing my love for them if they're open to receiving it).
This is what Tantra is for me. To open my heart fully to the person I'm with right now. To be intimate, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically, without an agenda, without expectations, without conditions. To accept this person as they are.
I do love the physical touch aspect of Tantra and cherish it. The movement of energy within my body from tantric massage and tantric practices has been profoundly life-changing.
My only real interest in being on Joy Club is to find other like-minded people who are open to explore with me what loving really means and, when it's appropriate, with both my wife and me.
I'm grateful to be included in this group to see and hear what others' experience of this profound practice is.